It’s always exciting and interesting when you’re in the first stage of a relationship. Every date, road trip, and walk makes you exuberant. There are also some couples who, after a few weeks of dating, then dive into the sexual department of the relationship. But most of us have probably heard people say, “Take your time on that relationship.”
Generally, when we hear people telling us that, we just think, “Alright I’m not going to jump into bed with them yet, I must first see that they’re not a murderer.”
Yet, taking your time in a relationship isn’t just about making sure that you’re not dating a serial killer. It’s about making sure that the relationship is heading to something long-term and you’re both driving in the same direction. If you really want to make your relationship work, it’s best to take the utmost time working things out and understanding each other. Here are some reasons why it’s essential to take your time.
- Get to know each other better
This is probably a reason that everyone has heard a million times. The first ingredient to making a relationship work smoothly is getting to know each other’s best and worst sides. As a matter of fact, isn’t that what we do on our first date? We sit and talk to see if we’re both interested in the same things.
But getting to know someone doesn’t just happen after one date. It isn’t even enough time to figure out the signs you’re in love with someone. It takes a lot of time, as some people show their true colors only after being together for a long time. It’s already understood that during the first phase of the relationship, we stay on our best behavior and tend to do things that we think would impress our partner. In the long run, the sparkly and glittery mask will eventually wear off as the relationship faces challenges and arguments.
Sometimes, it’s during your worst times together when you find out if you’re both compatible or if you’re just better together during the good times. That is why it’s best not to rush your relationship into serious decisions such as marriage and family. You must focus on getting to know each other well.
- Create a firm foundation for the relationship
Some people say that the best relationships start with being friends. This may be true for some, but it isn’t really necessary. When you’re in a relationship with someone, they don’t just play the role of a partner in your life. They must also be your friend, supporter, mentor, protector, and anything else that you want them to be, and the same goes for you. This is possible if you have that solid connection with each other.
If you can agree on a lot of things, it’s more likely that you’ll stay together for the long haul. It may be about shared interests or mutual respect, but the important thing is that you’ve each other’s back.
- Give time to prove consistency
In a new relationship, both you and your partner will be so into each other that you’d reply to texts in a second, or plan lots of getaways since you simply can’t get enough. However, seeing how you both act in the long run can help you realistically evaluate if you’ll be able to do the same things consistently.
Taking your time to know each other allows you to study each other’s behavior patterns that you think can be maintained, and which of them are only good for a short run. If you both truly care for your relationship, you’d both understand that being consistent does matter as it builds trust.
- Learn how to develop a healthy fight
It’s inevitable that as time goes by, you and your partner will have unforeseen arguments, or even have rocky times. It’s during these times that relationships are put to the test to see how long you can make it work despite the conflict. Some couples don’t know how to argue well or even treat each other well during a fight, hence leading them to end what they had.
Yet, if you and your partner can maneuver your way out of the arguments that you may go through in the long run, it’s more likely that you have developed a healthy way to settle your conflicts. Through this, it doesn’t just prove that you both know how to tear down your pride to save your relationship but it also proves that you are willing to make this work long-term.
- See if both parties are ready for a lifetime commitment
Most couples want their relationships to end in a lifetime commitment, marriage, and family. Taking your time in a relationship helps you discover if your partner agrees with having a life together and a family. This is essential as some people just love being in a relationship, but not taking it to the next level.
So, before you start planning your wedding, you must slow down and take your time to truly see if both of you are on the same page. That way, you won’t be wasting time with someone who isn’t planning on settling down at all.
Wrapping it up
As fun as being in a relationship may seem, it actually takes a lot of work from two people who are willing to be together until the end. After all, life is not a competition on who gets to marry first or how old should you be when you start a family. The important thing is to end up with the right person and that you don’t spend the rest of your years miserable for deciding too soon, or too late. Take your time, and the right things will fall into the right place at the right time.